When I'm mentoring I often hear that practitioners are not rebooking clients!
Because they don't value what their doing enough.
When a client books in to see you its because they need support.
They are struggling with something that they can't deal with on their own and their community can't provide them with.
That means you are that person they have chosen to create that space for them to come and unload, to process, to express and to understand what is going on within their body and mind.
In order for your clients to feel supported you need to form a relationship with them.
Relationships are deepened when a persons story is told and heard over and over again. This is the space that trust and support are created in.
When you don't rebook a client right away they can feel that their issue is expected to be resolved in one session.
Even if it is, it is important for them to have a space to come back to in order to process what happened and how!
Take a moment to imagine yourself walking in to a new practitioner, spending time with them and sharing information about yourself and your life which no-one else knows, perhaps going into a theta healing space and then being sent on your way back into 'real life' with a small plan of what to do next.
How often would you turn around to contact that person again?
Now take a moment to imagine yourself walking in to a new practitioner, spending time with them and sharing information about yourself and your life which no-one else knows, perhaps going into a theta healing space, being sent on your way back into 'real life' with a small plan of what to do next and then the practitioner tells you that they will see you again in 2 weeks to see how they are doing and to address anything new that comes up.
Can you feel the importance of the follow up?
I see some of my clients once a month for years. Not to work on anything major but just to support them where they are at in life at that moment. This has been wonderful on my part especially with children! I get to see them grow and develop; their parents know that they have a supportive place to come and chat; they become comfortable with talking about the ups and downs of life/their bodies/minds and they become used to asking for help when they are stuck/confused.
Life is never straightforward and even if you work purely on the physical level, there is always something that needs addressing/tweaking and we all need a safe person to help guide us through.
After all, thats what drew us to become practitioners right?
"You must feel so drained".. I hear it all the time.
As a Kinesiologist I am working on the physical, emotional and energetic levels in all of my sessions and am seeing up to 16 clients during a 12-13 hour day.
And while this business structure is temporary (i.e I don't plan on working those hours for an extended period of time) I am not drained by the sessions. In fact I feel much more drained on my days off with 2 little boys under 5 at home!
I've learnt the techniques of protecting myself energetically, but the theory of protection never sat well with me.
Why don't I want to "protect myself"?
1. It creates separation. I have nothing to fear. My clients need something off me. But I know that I am not the one healing. That energy is flowing through me to them. I am guided completely in what I do. When they need, they are not looking to me. They are seeing the channel that I am connected to. My role with each client is to connect them to that energy so that they can trust that it is there and use it for themselves.
The image I was given by guides looks a little like this:
The energy to the client (the yellow) is separate to my own channel (purple) and flows within my aura but not through my body.
2. I don't need to heal their pain. Pain is not something we have to be fearful of. If I am fearful of their pain or am trying to take that pain away it feels incredibly disempowering for that individual. My role is to help guide them through the pain by walking beside them as they experience it and come to a deep acceptance within themselves. If we can help our clients to dive into their pain without fear then we can bring empowerment to their experience of life! I don't want them to think that I am the one healing them of their pain! I want their experience with me to show them that pain is a natural state in life and there is nothing to resist. Their healing and what they do with all that was given in the session is their responsibility past my 4 walls. This is also why it's so important to make many follow up appointments! So that they can go away - play trial and error/ flow with their pain and they are safe in the knowledge that we are connecting again to feel into each step of their journey.
When practitioners are connected to love and we see ALL scenes in life through the lens of love, then there is nothing to fear.
When there is nothing to fear then there is no need for protection.
For me protection feels heavy and draining.
By staying curious and present with a client I can stay in a space of trust. When I trust, the session flows.
My space is one of deep listening. To the client and to the guidance given. When I am listening, my mind stops. When I am listening I am in a state of love and acceptance of whatever is said, whatever comes up and whatever is needed of me during the session.
I am in complete service for the client.
The money given at the end is my energy exchange.
Because there is no fear attached to pain for me, I am not fearful of the client going through pain in between our sessions. It's part of the journey.
Also, because I am always making follow ups with my clients, the amount of new clients is limited!
The relationship is there and so there is no energy going to establishing a connection.
Because of this flow and feeling of safety my clients have, most of my new clients have been introduced by people I already have a relationship with so the trust has already been established by the time they make the appointment. All the boundaries are soft so it's easy to connect!